How do you decide whether or not to break up with someoneI was with my boyfriend for almost 2 years until I broke up with him 3 weeks ago. We're young, I'm 20 and he's 21. He was my first boyfriend gw2 gold.I was never crazy about him. He was my prom date by default and nothing went wrong from there. Through our relationship I came to love him very much, and he literally did everything right. He was always there for me, he always listened, he always cared, he always loved me. He never asked anything of me or hurt me in any way. He was always very open about his feelings for me and there is no doubt in my mind that if I were to stay with him, I would be loved until the day I die.But I never really felt that spark. I feel like he always melted my heart but he never made it skip a beat. I'm not considering taking him back because I obviously need this time to figure things out. But could he still be the one in the end? When you're talking about forever is stability better than excitement? Doesn't the spark have to be there to begin with?He is clearly not a player, very solid and caring, but he is a 'puppy dog' man- he does not present any challenges. He is a real man, because he is not playing games.But you are looking for SPARK and being 'in love', versus love. you are also young.The thing is, do you really want to throw away the person you have come to love very much for some vague fantasy, or worse still, a b-stard. There are plenty of them out there, because my friends have dated many of them over the years!And any guy who listens is a double blessing! wow! The thing is that you alos need to grow and develop and so you should share your life with someone who is going to support your mission on this planet. who will help you grow into your higher self.If you are talking about a s-x spark, well, there are lots of ways of getting that. You could both practice being multiorgasmic guild wars 2 gold, for example. Sure beats watching TV.If you open your heart to him and love and accept him and he does the same for you, you might just be inventing an issue in your head, which might not even have anything to do with him but everything to do with what direct you feel your life is taking, and some desire to shake it up.The fact that you can picture yourself being with him forever is a good thing. He is Mr Right, not Mr Right Now.By all means do the work on yourself, but keep the lines of communication open. Every couple has rut times and then peak fun times. It is the nature of things. It can't be intense and exciting all the time. And you are growing in so many other ways. So what do you really want to do with your life, and will he be an obvious part of it? Or are you growing apart.It is great to have spark AND stability. and it depends on what you mean by spark. I am not wildly in love with my hubby 24/7, sometimes he is just 'there' for me, but just when I think I know everything there is to know about him, he surprises me and makes me fall in love with him all over again. (yes, we did have an incredible spark-love at first sight, married within 6 months, but that is not to say it was all a bed of roses)Good luck no matter what you decide!Sparks last but a short time and when it is gone then you'll or he will be looking for a new spark. you had what most people are looking for someone that will stick with you through the good times and the bad. Think of what the marrage vows say thats what life is all about. Sure there will be thing that trun your head just like a new dress or a jacket or a guy in your case but remember what you have home but think what it does for you even when the new is gone it still there and ready to share with you the most importain thing of all life. Sure life with the best mate is not smooth it is like all the roads we travel gw2 gold, they go up and down ruff and smooth butyou riding together and you share the experience and this makes life worth if to share it with some one that you know that loves you. This does not mean that there wont be times that you disagree or even word fights and even say something that you wish you had not said for there will be those times but the thing that brought you together will hold you together. I could and would like to say more , put seeing am just speaking from personal experience I stop here. But one last thing when yo go to the fire works store and get that sparkler it will give you the sparks you are wanting but remember if you touch it if will burn you and that guy that give to that spark may do the same.Personally, I know what your talking about. I just dated this kid that I have been friends with for years, and I realized in the middle of the relationship that I couldn't really feel the spark. He was so sweet! He gave me flowers and chocolates! He called me every night! but it wasn't enough. I didn't feel that attraction to him. I felt terrible admitting it, but I felt like he was more like a brother. I couldn't even kiss him without feeling wrong.Before him I had a boyfriend, who is mine now. He knew how to deal with me, and even when we held hands I was in extacy. I know that sounds ridiculous, but that is how i felt :) Really, I can't tell you what to do. But it sounds like you want to be with someone else. Or atleast that you are feeling a bit stagnant with the man you were once with. Maybe you should tell him straight up, "I'm not sure about how I feel about you. Give me time, I want to see my sights before we really settle down" That will atleast give him something to think about. Go out, meet new boys, but don't expect him to wait forever. It would be very unfair. If you find that your spark is with someone else, then you need to make that clear with the boy you told to wait. If not, I suggest you get back with him. He sounds like a keeper in my opinion, but i can't comprehend how you feel about him. If you feel the way I felt with the first boy i told you about then I can't tell you to be with him because it doesn't feel right. Good luck!Different people do love differently and find it at different times. I was twenty when I met my husband. (He was nine years older than me.) We have been married for five years which is something considering my other relationships lasted maybe 6 months. Anyways, my husband is much different than me. He is shy and pessimistic. I am outgoing and optimistic. He loves scary movies and comedy like South Park. I love romantic comedies and action adventure movies. It is our differences that make our relationship interesting. I am motivated to grow and become a better person. He is content to be who he is. I am the dreamer. he is the realist. My mom says I am like a kite with my head in the clouds and he is the string that keeps me grounded.I am not saying that your current boy friend is any of these things. I am just saying that a ying yang relationship is not necessarily a bad thing. By all means go out and test the waters, but if you do it wrong you you could think back about him thinking he was the one that got away. I would highly recommend before letting him go. You should get couples counseling and talk about all the things you mentioned here. I also recommend you treat him like a brand new boyfriend. Go out on special dates where you have to get all dressed up or doing something you would not normally do (something that is out of your routine). Switch things up a bit. You never know. You might find that you rekindle something that you missed from before. If you are sexually active, I highly recommend a sex therapist and that you try something outside your sex routine. Just trying new positions and toys can help spice things up. It can make going to bed much more exciting for you both. I like to think that everyone can be a porn star in their own bedrooms (most guys dream).
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